Although Brad’s response was far from a full-scale rejection, it flew like a mountain of sand in the face of Jennifer’s expectations for the relationship and seemed to her like a death sentence. Worst of all, she felt cursed by the heavens. “I just don’t understand the hand of God in this,” she complained. “I’ve never been in a relationship where I’ve tried more diligently to honor God and follow his principles. And it seems that God has given me so many reasons for hope during the time I’ve dated Brad. But now it appears he has simply set me up to shoot me down. I just don’t believe that God has dealt fairly with me.”

Jennifer’s feelings of discouragement are only too understandable. Disappointments in relationships are among the most painful experiences we suffer. There are few of us who wouldn’t feel dejected in similar circumstances. Yet her hurt was intensified by the conclusions she reached about God’s role in what happened. She read these circumstances to mean that God had turned against her; worse still, he was treating her unjustly.

I talk with many Christians who have fallen into an outlook similar to Jennifer’s. They’ve concluded God is unconcerned with helping them, even that he wishes to punish and harm them. Sometimes such thinking is merely temporary--part of the catharsis of coming to terms with a personal loss. Yet all too frequently it becomes an abiding way of interpreting what God is doing in their experience.

The tragedy is that when we conclude that God isn’t treating us fairly in one situation, it’s only a small jump to thinking he cannot be trusted with anything else. Optimism about our future fades, and we lose the courage to take steps of faith. I find this to be the state of affairs with numerous Christians today, even some with considerable doctrinal understanding. When it comes to considering the role of God in their lives, they get locked into pessimism.

Half-Empty or Half-Full?

There are exceptions, though, and some truly inspiring ones at that. Consider the experience another friend, Nelson, recently shared with me.

As Nelson was pulling into a parking space at his office in Washington , D.C. , a rear tire dropped off of his car. Just one week before, while he was visiting his family in Illinois , an auto clinic had overhauled the axle. Now Nelson faced the unhappy prospect of hassling with a repair facility 600 miles away that had done shoddy work--and the likelihood of another costly repair here in Washington . Not to mention the aggravation and expense of finding transportation in the interim, since he was bereft of his only car.

Nelson’s instinctive reaction was not anger but awe. “I was astounded to think that I had driven all the way from Illinois with a faulty axle and nothing happened,” he said. “If it had snapped at high speed on an interstate, I could have been killed.” He then added, almost as an afterthought, that he found it impossible to feel much anxiety over how he would afford another major repair. “The same God who protected my life in this incident will provide the money needed to fix my car,” he explained.

Both Jennifer and Nelson experienced significant personal setbacks that led them to reflect about God’s purpose in what had happened. But while Jennifer concluded that God had turned against her, Nelson assumed God had done him a favor. Their conclusions could hardly have been farther apart.

I should hasten to say that I don’t condemn Jennifer for her reaction. She’s making the effort to think things through from the standpoint of her relationship with Christ, and I admire her honesty. She’s a new Christian, and with her openness to expressing honestly what she’s thinking and feeling, she may well work things through to a more positive perspective.

Yet while I respect Jennifer’s way of thinking, I envy Nelson’s. His is the sort of intensely hopeful outlook that I long to have characterize my own life and wish to hold out as a role model to others.

One reason I envy Nelson’s manner of thinking is that I know the benefits this sort of outlook brings. When we’re viewing God’s work in our lives optimistically, we feel encouraged; our anxieties are lifted, we regain a sense of hope, we start seeing hidden serendipities in otherwise frustrating circumstances. Often, too, we see solutions to problems that seem insurmountable when we’re thinking less optimistically.

The effects of this optimism spill over into many areas of our lives. Nelson’s experience with the car has even had a positive effect on the way he looks at relationships. Though he recently went through a difficult breakup, he’s viewing the situation positively now, convinced that God kept him from a lifetime commitment with someone who wasn’t compatible with him. “I’m confident that a God who loves me this much will provide for my relationship needs too,” he added. This confidence has spurred him to become more active socially, and he’s seeing opportunities for relationships that he hadn’t recognized before.

A Basis for Optimism

But while I envy Nelson’s perspective because of its benefits, I admire it most of all because it seems to represent so well the attitude of heart that the Scriptures term faith. Throughout the Bible we’re urged to view God and his involvement in our lives through the eyes of faith. Though the concept of faith is never defined precisely in Scripture, it always seems to imply optimism--even blazing optimism--about what God is doing in our experience. The basis for this optimism includes not only the facts of Christ’s salvation, forgiveness and empowering, but also the fact of God’s protection and provision in our lives individually. The Scriptures stress that he is working out a distinctive plan for each of us, with our best interests and his highest intentions in mind. To say the least, this is a basis for considerable optimism.

This isn’t to say that optimism in Scripture knows no bounds. The Bible has plenty to say about the other side of the coin and never comes close to a “don’t-worry-be-happy” philosophy. Grief has an important place and is even recommended when one is coming to terms with a major loss (Acts 8:2). We’re warned against falling into unrealistic fantasies that keep us from taking proper responsibility for our lives (Judg 18:27; 2 Thess 3:6-13). And we’re urged to respect the power of sin and to fear the inevitable consequences if we cave in to its enticements. The man who’s considering an affair with someone else’s wife will be served well by a healthy dose of pessimism (Prov 7:6-27). So will the woman who’s convinced she can achieve salvation by her own efforts (Rom 3:23).

Still, when it comes to considering the work of God in our lives as Christians, the accent in Scripture is strongly on optimism. This optimism is at the heart of what the Bible means by faith.

Scripture minces no words in stressing that faith is central to our ability to relate to God on every level. It’s hard to exaggerate the emphasis given to the need for faith in Scripture. Next to the triumph of grace, the importance of faith is the most significant and pervasive theme in the Bible. While we are saved by grace, it is grace through faith (Eph 2:8; Rom 3:22-25; Rom 5:1; Gal 3:26; 2 Tim 3:15). We’re called not merely to obey God but to the obedience of faith (Rom 1:5; 16:26; Heb 11). It’s through faith that we become righteous before God (Rom 3:22; Phil 3:9), enjoy a personal relationship with Christ (Eph 3:17), are enabled to pray effectively (Eph 3:12), and become able to understand otherwise puzzling matters of doctrine (Heb 11:3). We experience God’s protection through faith (1 Pet 1:15) and put ourselves in position to enjoy all of the other benefits that he extends to us (Gal 3:22; Heb 6:12).

Indeed, the writer of Hebrews states it most inclusively in saying, “Without faith it is impossible to please God” (Heb 11:6).

Transferable Faith

Given the extraordinary extent to which Scripture extols faith and our need for it, it is important for us as Christians to give close and frequent attention to what an attitude of faith is and to whether our life is reflecting it. Far too often our instinctive reaction to challenges is like Jennifer’s rather than Nelson’s. We each have an ongoing, chronic and desperate need for the rekindling of our faith and for experiencing the optimism that faith inspires.

But how do we do it? It’s here that Nelson’s example is so instructive. He followed a simple line of reasoning: If God has proven trustworthy in one circumstance, he can be trusted in another.

I’m certain that this ability to transfer the lessons learned from one experience to another is at the heart of all successful living. This principle is the basis for the counsel offered by Richard Bolles in his classic job-seeking manual, What Color Is Your Parachute?. Bolles urges us to see our skills as “transferable.” If you’ve been successful as a waiter, for instance, you’ve learned abilities that can be employed in more challenging situations. You’ve developed interpersonal and communication skills that could be used in management or teaching positions.

Just as we need to see our talents as transferable, we also should regard our experiences of faith as being so. We should strive to remember the lessons learned about God’s faithfulness in one situation and apply them in new circumstances. While this may seem to be an elementary point, it’s not at all natural for us to think in this way. Consider that on numerous occasions Jesus had to re-teach his disciples lessons they had already learned and should have been applying in new situations. Thus, when crossing a lake they were desperately concerned about where their next meal would come from, even though they had helped Jesus miraculously feed a crowd of thousands of people earlier that same day (Mk 8:14-21)!

On the positive side, David is an inspiring example of how the lessons of faith can be transferred from one situation to another in his decision to fight Goliath. He assumed that God would give him success because of the protection he had experienced in shepherding. “The Lord who delivered me from the paw of the lion and the paw of the bear will deliver me from the hand of this Philistine,” David concluded (1 Sam 17:37).

This is the manner of thinking we need to apply to all the challenges we face. This is the sort of thinking that’s at the heart of authentic faith. For each of us it boils down to an exceedingly encouraging point: The same God who has supported us in the past, who met the needs of those in Scripture, who faithfully takes care of so many people whom we know--this same God will protect us in all our challenges and provide for us as we take steps of faith. There is scarcely a more significant thought we can grasp than this. Let us take great encouragement from it and be inspired to live courageously.
       

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